Whilst I was thinking about my blog post this morning, I thought it would be nice to share my words that I spoke at my book launch for Heartbreak, Healing and Happiness last Friday Night.
The launch was attended by about 100 beautiful friends and family. Everyone showed enormous support, got in the atmosphere by wearing a splash of pink and shared fun conversations, good food and a few champagnes.
Thank you to everyone who attended and I look forward to hearing your review on my book.
I had a fabulous night, and I cant wait to publish another book so I can do it all over again.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx LARA xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together
Said Marilyn Monroe
Welcome, its so great to see everyone here tonight and its especially more visually appealing considering you all look so much prettier in a splash of pink.
Thanks Gemma for your beautiful words, I have known Gemma for forever and we share a deep bond, a bond that friendships are truly made of. I am so grateful to have her in my life, and she always listens to me, lets me be me and infuses honesty and humour into all our conversations even in the painful times.
A little about me. I had a dream, I wanted to write a book, Gemma laughs at me when I say that I want to be Carrie off Sex in the City, to have a book or three, a column, a trendy apartment, great friends, a lot less complicated My Big and lots of nice clothes. WELLLL…
As Deepak Chopra said
All great changes are preceeded by chaos
My road to this dream all started when I had a big break up about 12 years ago up and I immersed myself into personal development to overcome the pain. This lead to a love of studying, introspection and interest in people, emotions and learning to be the very best version of myself I could be.
So over the next few years I completed a Diploma in Professional Counselling with an advanced major in Grief, A diploma in Life Coaching, Cert IV in Pilates instruction, Diploma in Remedial Massage and a few other business Diplomas along the way.
I didn’t yet have a clear direction and and was not sure exactly where I would end up but I followed my passions and I knew at some point they would all come together and present to me my life purpose on a silver platter. You see I strongly believe we are all here with something special to offer the world sometimes it just takes time and a process of elimination to uncover it. I was a true seeker on the path to find my life purpose and live my best life.
It wasn’t until about 3 years ago when I went through another big break up that the experience in itself was the impetus for me to start writing my first book. I woke up early one morning and with my broken heart, a big white piece of paper and a few coloured pencils, I sat on the floor in my pj’s and plotted out the chapters and the content of my book.
I started writing and investing my time and energies into getting the words out on to the paper in front of me. I must admit it was a seemingly easy process for me I never struggled with anything to write it kind of just flowed out onto the page. But then I do always have a lot of words to say.
Writing is very cathartic and the more I wrote, the more I healed myself from the heartbreak I had suffered and simultaneously the more I fell in love with writing and personal development. My dream started to unfold in front of my eyes. I believed I had something valuable to offer others who were going through Heartbreak and an opportunity to help heal them and inspire them to live their best lives and their purpose and dreams.
Hence..After many name changes Heartbreak Healing and Happiness was born.
Title. Heartbreak, Healing and Happiness, Subtitle (Flourishing after a heartbreak) has three distant parts that mirrored my journey.
The Heartbreak part presents a 5 step process teaching you to 1. to create self awareness, 2. take responsibility for your life, 3. feel your feelings, 4. seek forgiveness and 5. find acceptance moving you out of the immediate pain.
The Healing part is about listening to your inner wisdom who I call the Inner Pink Star, befriending your inner critic who I call Lady Chitter Chatter whilst also discovering who you really are at a deeper level giving you the ability to live a truly authentic life..
The Happiness part is about just that. Learning how to love youself, creating your own personal vision statement and setting goals. From there exposing your passions so you can create and live your life purpose, your dream.
The book is infused with my raw experiences, my professional knowledge from my studies and many practical activities, tools and exercises to help move you through the pain.
The more I wrote the more I unearthed my own life purpose whilst gaining bigger snippets everyday of the elusive happiness I was seeking, I was enthralled and in awe of how different life can be when you are living the dream, the dream that you create for yourself.
The dream that puts you in the flow of life. Time stops and time passes, boredom is nowhere to be seen, you finish each day just as inspired as when you started. You jump out of bed the next morning enthusiastically waiting to do it all over again.
During the two years whilst I was writing Heartbreak Healing and Happiness and getting over my own heartbreak, I suffered two more major heartbreaks, I had to make the dreaded decision to euthanase my gorgeous golden retriever Maxy and then I had to sit beside him while he took his last breath in my arms shattering my heart in a million pieces.
When I finally felt I was putting the grief behind me from my break up and losing Maxy, my beautiful Dad, took a downhill slide in his terminal illness.
After celebrating his 80th he was in and out of hospital carrying his Italian fighting spirit but within 4 months he lost his fight and he took his last peaceful breathe. Even though I understand it was his time and he was ready to go it shattered my healing heart all over again.
He taught me so many lessons in his last year about what was important like love and family and I remember him saying to me “It’s not about building the empire, don’t work so hard Lara”
I used the same process in my book to move through the pain of each of these heartbreaks instead of using distractions to avoid it like I had in the past.
Even though the book is marketed as getting over a breakup with a partner the process is universal for any heartbreaks in our journey. So, I know it works as I have trialled it three times in the last 3 years and for me it has helped every time.
Below the levels of hurt we suffer lies a pure love waiting to be exposed. The more you feel the bad stuff the more you will be able to feel the good stuff. On the other side of sorrow and loss is joy , contentment and love.
Life in the Pink, was born as the name of my business to parent my book. A facebook page was created, a website with weekly blogs born and today my beautiful pink book baby is launched.
The term “In the Pink” was coined in the 16th century and over time has evolved to mean in perfect health physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Life in the Pink is where you can redesign and redecorate your life one step at a time and was created with 3 intrinsic values
Value number 1 Love for self and others As Voltaire the French writer said “Self love is the instrument of our preservation”
Value number 2 Truth – Living authentically As William shakespeare said “This above all – to thine own self be true. And it must follow as the night the day. Thoust can not then be false to any man”
Value number 3 Purpose – Following our passion to living our dream As RUMI the 13th century French poet said “everyone has been made for some particular work and the desire for that work has been put in every heart “
I have created my book Heartbreak, Healing and Happiness and my business Life in the Pink from a deep heart and soul felt passion of mine to help transform, teach, heal, awaken and enlighten individuals along my journey in life. To help others live an authentic life, following their soul purpose encapsulated by self love. With an even bigger desire to make small but profound changes to the world in its entirety.
I believe each small change we embrace and put into action can have a direct impact on the people we love and surround ourselves with and have an even further reach without our knowledge.
My other passion in life, is animals in particular dogs.
I just love, love, love them. I am the girl, despite frustrating friends will stop and talk to every dog in the street and the one who will sit with them at parties, or outside woolworths till the owners return because the dog looks sad. I take a keen interest into every pets welfare and working in a Vet part time enables me to help and meet many pets.
I have already sat on the floor with a big white sheet of paper to start the next book which will be about the love loss and lessons from our departed furry friends , come and visit my new facebook site Paws in Pink and watch this space.
I have learnt, after your heart has been shattered it is possible to rebuild your life over and over and when needed change direction, It is possible to feel good things even in the midst of deep grief because that is what life is about it is unpredictable, it is possible to sit and feel deep grief without falling into the abyss of darkness, and if you do fall you can pull yourself out again, and it is possible to feel so much more love when you process your loss and heal your hurts. I have learnt many more things. But possibly the biggest is it is possible to live your dream.
We only get one life, this is not a rehearsal, we need to make it count.
Thank you all for coming and for everyone who helped me tonight and to a few special people I have left my thanks at the end of my book.
I wish for YOU all to heal any heartbreaks and live with love, truth and purpose so you can live out your passions and your dream enabling you to have a more fulfilled life of passion, joy, happiness, peace, serenity and love.
And I wish you all courage, faith and self belief to be able to step outside your comfort zones and challenge yourself to do so if this is needed.
I hope you enjoy my book and jump on board my website and facebook pages, embrace their concepts, and incorporate them into your life.
Because Despite any rough patches in life’s terrain you will see that, if you take responsibility, feel your feelings and heal your heartbreaks, more love appears, magic does appear, miracles happen, life gets all sparkly, and then, you have a LIFE IN THE PINK.
No matter how hard the past you can always begin again
AS Lara says
Flourish and live your individual version of happily ever after.
Read more about my new book – Heartbreak, Healing and Happiness. Visit Book Depository here.
Click here to get a copy of my free “Flower garden of Love” ebook that shares more on loving ourselves and healing.
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With Pink love and respect Lara and the two cute puppos Suzy and Chelsea. xx