The first step to healing – Awareness

Life is our stage

Life is our stage and it is a parade of ups and downs, lots of ups and lots of downs and in between if you are lucky some everyday middle ground.

Just when you think you are balanced and standing tall on the middle ground, sailing through life a new challenge is tossed your way, leaving you juggling this challenge, alongside all the ones from before, that you are not yet quite healed from.

If you continue to put the bad stuff on top of the bad stuff, with no reflection or healing, not only do you weigh yourself down, you don’t develop the tools to help move you through your healing and you become fixed in chaos and confusion, muddling through thick treacle hoping the exit will miraculously appear.

It is during the middle ground, when life is a little easier that gives you an opportunity to put some preventative emotional healing in place to prepare you for the next peak in difficulty, giving you the ability to add tools to your repertoire and deal with each situation just a little better, and preparing yourself for the next one, should it appear.

Latte time

Having coffee with a good friend today we both agreed life has good stuff and bad stuff but even through the bad stuff (and between the two of us there was our fair share of bad stuff) it is still important to be able to feel the good stuff.

You only live once, there is no second act, this is not a rehearsal so if you miss the good stuff because you are so entrenched in your woes and worries you don’t get a chance to do it again. You miss the moments, the ones that life is all about.

When you are in the midst of the bad stuff you can feel cloaked in a big rug and in protection mode, wanting to be by yourself and hidden from the big wide world. You shun the opportunities to be open and present for the good moments.

I know it is important to reflect and hide from the world occasionally but the more you can prepare yourself and the more you can heal the less time you will need to hide and the less good moments you will miss.

So how do you live and heal through the bad stuff while still feeling the good stuff?

Welcome the “In the Pink Process”

The “In the Pink” process is a healing process. The 5 steps help you dance on your stage, with class and grace on the backdrop of your life.

It enables you to stop and reflect, to take stock of where you are and give you the ability to change direction, heal, be a better version of yourself and move towards living your best life.

This process will help to get you unstuck, it will stop you seeking distractions in unhealthy behaviours and help access the peace and the calm within.

Step 1 – Awareness.

Awareness is the master key.

It is the first step on your journey to profound change

When you gain awareness you open so many internal doors to the nooks and crannies of your mind and soul, unleashing answers to who you are, what you want and where you need to go, or be in life.

Awareness takes a few forms, there is awareness of your feelings, your thoughts, your behaviours, your choices, your relationships and your situations in life.

With awareness instead of stumbling around in the dark you start shining a light on you. This then gives you the ability to take the power back instead of living in victimhood and blame you can start to live in emotional knowledge and initiate the healing process, making better decisions, living a better life.

Sometimes the honesty that awareness brings also results in hard lessons or decisions. Once you are honest with yourself and stop long enough to create awareness you step into the light.

You get to make a choice, you get to take responsibility, and you start to heal.

There is nothing to gain from being dishonest to yourself.

My story

In a period of my life, when I was much younger, I mastered the ability to be totally unaware. I was in an unfulfilling, totally stressful corporate job (That I didn’t enjoy) and a relationship that wasn’t working for me.

Instead of choosing to become aware, I chose to remain in the dark. I ignored the signs, I created more distractions, I worked harder and longer and simultaneously I became unhappy and more disconnected from myself. Oh and I was terrified, but clueless what to do.

The first panic attack woke me up but it took about a year and a bit of panic attacks to create full awareness, wake up to myself, make different and better choices and turn my life around.

It was the impetus for me to learn more about myself and opened me up to my life purpose, which I an forever grateful for, however it was a really tough lesson to learn.

Without awareness I would never have even started on the journey to healing.

So if you are muddling around in the treacle and looking for the exit sign, start here.

How do you become more aware?

1. STOP. BREATHE.
2. Put down the to do lists and stop the distractions
3. Slow down
4. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable (It won’t last forever I promise you)
5. Notice and observe you all the good and all the not so good
6. Journal your feelings and thoughts
7. Be honest

Question time..

1. Be honest. How you do you dance on your stage, light, smiley and free or bogged down, grumpy and heavy?
2. Is it your time to begin healing?
3. Do you need to change your life?
4. Are you ready to a make a difference to your days?
5. Rate your inner awareness from 0 – 10, 10 being the best.
6. When you feel good about yourself, what are you doing at the time?
7. When you don’t feel good about yourself, what are you doing at the time?
8. What distractions do you use to remain unaware and in the dark?
9. What consequences are you avoiding by remaining unaware?
10. What can you do to become just a little more aware?

So, step 1 is Awareness. This week revel in the discovery of the beautiful, gorgeous YOU.

Next week, we will learn step 2 in the “In the Pink” process and travel more along your journey to healing and happiness.

Read all about the 5 step “In the Pink” process in my new book – Heartbreak, Healing and Happiness. Visit Book Depository here.

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With Pink love and respect Lara and the two cute puppos Suzy and Chelsea. xx